Personal vs. Professionally-Written Vows: Which One Should You Choose?

Every bride wants their wedding day to go off without a hitch. To help create those perfect memories,

we’ve written about some pre-wedding tips no one tells you to do. This includes breaking in your shoes,

practicing putting on your dress and makeup, and keeping yourself hydrated throughout the day.

Another thing you should prepare is your vows. No one tells you to do this — because they already

expect you to.

But are your wedding vows really, truly prepared? After all, these are promises you make to your future

partner that will define the future of your marriage. That’s why you should take the time to prepare them and make the most out of every word you’ll say.

Vows can be written personally or by a professional. Both methods have their merits and drawbacks.

Below we list the pros and cons of each so you can make the right choice for yourself.

Personal vows

The personal vow has many merits. Writing your own vows means they’ll be no other vow in the world

like it. They’ll also be exceptionally personal and  specific to your relationship . This can amp up your

vows’ romantic factor even further — from the time you jot them down to when it’s finally time to say

your words out loud.

Writing your vows can be also a fun and freeing experience. You can write about how you really feel

about your partner. You can revisit memory lane and recall the tiniest details of your time together that

make your relationship so special. Personal vows inspire you to set your mindset and start your

marriage off on the right foot. In many ways, writing them can be life-changing.

Yet it’s also true that personal vows aren’t a one-size-fits-all method of vow writing. If you love writing

and literature or are currently pursuing a flourishing  writing career , writing your own vows will come

easier to you. This is because from art to law, effective writing is the key to all communication — and

whether you write for work or for pleasure, applying your writing skills to your vows will come more

easily to you.

However, some brides may find it hard to put their emotions into words. And that’s okay! A professional

vow writer can always help you out.

Professionally-written vows

There are many reasons to hire professional vow writers. You might not be as adept at writing. You may

need more time to focus on other aspects of wedding planning. You may even  have alexithymia, a

condition where you can’t express and distinguish different emotions. A professional vow writer can help

you with all that and more.

Because they’re more experienced, a professional  vow writer  can take what you give them and turn it

into beautiful prose that ebbs and flows when spoken. They instinctively know the right tone or mood to

give your vows. They put definite limits on how long your vows should be — and this can ultimately save

you from rambling at the altar. Some writers can even give you tips on how to deliver your speech in the

most impactful way possible.

These writers offer wedding-related services, just like florists, caterers, and photographers. Seeking

their help won’t detract from the value of your vows since all of the input will be coming from you. If

you’re really pressed for time, hiring them is infinitely better than taking generic vow templates off the


However, if you have the time and confidence in your skills to write your own vows, personal vows may

hold more meaning to you — both on your wedding day and in the years to come.

Vows are an integral part of your wedding day — and it’s not something that you want to mess up. By

choosing the perfect way to get your vows prepared, every word you say at the altar is guaranteed to be

full of meaning.

Written by Alianna Cathy Crofts

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